Thursday, May 3, 2012

Final Thoughts

I definitely learned a lot in this course. I was really nervous when I signed up to take it, because I don't know anything about Czechoslovakia, but I'm glad I took it because I learned so much about it, and about the Communist party. I really enjoyed the books we read too. It was hard for me to get into The Miracle Game because the story moved around so much, but I loved reading Havel. The idea of living in the truth in times such as Communist Czechoslovakia seems like it was so foreign to people and so difficult to do. The fact that Havel needed to write a whole essay about how important it is to stay true to your beliefs even if it means that you could lose everything shows how crazy things must have been for people who lived there during that time. I also really liked reading The Joke. I think the portrayal of women in all three books, but in that book especially, is so awful which is why I chose to do the majority of my writing project on how these novels and Havel's essay relate to our society today. I didn't think that I would be able to relate a Czechoslovakian's novel to American culture in the 2010s, but I believe that the parallels I made are true. I thought all of the movie choices were great too, and reading The Joke and watching The Unbearable Lightness of Being really made me want to read or watch other works of Kundera.

I think that the fact that I was able to connect so many of Havel's and other authors' ideas based on Communist Czechoslovakia to our American society today shows that all cultures really aren't that different. People still want the ability to speak freely and to do what they want to do no matter where they live or what culture they are a part of. Havel talks about the musicians who can't even play their own music because of the Party. Imagine if that's what happened in America. If you couldn't even play a song that you wrote without going through a process to get it approved by a bunch of people in power. I can't imagine what it would be like to have to worry about saying that wrong thing to every person you meet. I think we all are scared of our first impressions when we first meet somebody, but to worry about whether or not the person you are meeting for the first time could report you if you said anything against the people of power, which would then cause you to lose so many things in your life, would be a constant bother. I think the main lesson I learned in this class is that every culture has that constant, that wanting to be the person you want to be without being judged, and wanting the ability to say how you feel. I'm really glad I took this course because it seems like an idea that is so obvious, but it definitely brought a whole new side and perspective to that idea.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Greek Life

When I think about Havel's description of "living within the truth" and how I want to relate that to Beloit College, I mainly think of Greek Life. Partially because I am a member of Kappa Delta Sorority, but also because I think of how Beloit College is. Beloit is supposed to be a liberal arts school where everyone can have their own opinion, everyone can talk about current events and situations and not feel like they are going to offend anyone with what they have to say. Unfortunately, after my two years at Beloit but also more recently in the past couple of months, I have realized that this isn't true when it comes to Greek Life. It is so easy for people on campus to say that they are open to all ideas and all kinds of people, but when I hear how Greek Life is described by some people on this campus, it makes me sad and also angry that people like to call themselves "liberals" and "open" to all ideas and all kinds of people. If these people think that they are living in the truth, then they are very wrong. In one of my earlier posts I argued that you have to live within the lie to then be able to live within the truth. Maybe the people on this campus who are not accepting of others have not lived within the lie and therefore can't live within the truth, but it makes more sense for them to be living within the lie right now. Also, I'm not saying that people who are judgmental of Greek Life are the only ones who are not living within the truth. There are many people on this campus, in Greek Life or not, who judge others and are not open to new ideas and people different from themselves. That is living within the lie. The reason I bring up Greek Life, however, is because I am a Kappa Delta and I am so tired of hearing how people who are not in Greek Life talk about my sorority. They judge an entire group or organization based on the few people they may know in that organization, but they don't understand that every Greek organization on this campus is made up of a diverse group of people.
In Middle School and High School, I was in many different groups of friends. I got to know lots of different kinds of people, so when I came to Beloit I felt like I could have a conversation with anyone. I consider myself a liberal, and I was exposed to all kinds of diversity growing up - different races, classes, disabilities, etc. Of course it's easy to get annoyed with people sometimes, or to get mad during an argument with someone who has an opinion that is different from yours, but I've never hated anyone at Beloit and I've never judged someone for the way they look, talk, or act, especially if I don't know them. I think everyone has different personalities and should be able to be whoever they want to be. I believe that I am living in the truth at Beloit, because I am a part of Kappa Delta but I am also part of other groups on campus, such as Girls Empowerment through Mentoring and French Club. I've also helped out other organizations with their events, like SPIEL's Milkshake Monday. I think I have lived in the lie before living in the truth, because in Middle School I was a part of a group who was very judgmental of others. I think once I realized that that's not the way to live life, I was able to be more understanding and open to others. I also think that's why I was able to join a Greek organization, because I realized that all of these women in Kappa Delta are so different from me and have helped me become more understanding of others. People on Beloit's campus have the idea that everyone in a Greek organization is the same person. Of course we have similarities, which is what draws us to the Greek organization, but if we were all the same exact person, everyone would get sick of each other. The differences are what make us who we are, and I just wish that people would accept and understand that, instead of saying that they "live within the truth" and are open to all different kinds of people, except for people in Greek Life.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Last Section in Judge on Trial

When I think about Adam, I think about how unsure he is about the decisions he makes. My impression of his personality is that he has very low self-confidence, and often changes his mind. He has struggled a lot with understanding what it means to live within the truth. From the beginning when he thinks about his wife and how he cannot wait for her to return to him but then changes his mind and when she comes home he does not care too much to be with her, to the time that he has to choose whether to go to the movies with his child or meet his mistress, it is obvious that Adam struggles with the abilitiy to make decisions and stick to what he believes in. I respect the fact that he does not agree with the death penalty, but there are so many other values that he holds which I feel he does not always stick to. For example, having a mistress. At the beginning it seems as if Adam is fine with his family and his home life, yet he takes a mistress and knows that it isn't what he should be doing. The part where he talks about wanting to live within the truth when he goes to the movies with his child instead of meeting his mistress shows that he wants to be a good person and the person he is supposed to be, but it's too hard for him to fully live within the truth.
Although I don't really like how Adam has abandoned some of his values, I don't judge him for it. I think he has suffered a lot in his life, and the fact that he has struggled with his values but not completely abandoned all of them shows his character. I feel bad for him for having to make a decision whether to end a man's life when he so strongly believes that the death penalty is wrong. I cannot imagine ever having to make that decision, and this novel has given me a lot more respect for all judges and juries who have to make decisions like this. I think that he is probably my favorite character out of the three main characters we have experienced in this course. (Of course, everyone is better than Ludvik.) I mainly feel sorry for Adam, and I respect him for trying to do the right thing and for trying and wishing to live within the truth.

Friday, March 2, 2012

Hope

Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.

From: :http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/v/vaclav_havel.html#ixzz1nyabA6CI


While googling quotes from Havel, this is what I found. In fact, I found many quotes about hope. I love this quote so much because a lot of people do think that hope is associated with optimism, but hope is actually just knowing that what's happening is happening for a reason. I believe that everything happens for a reason, so I'm glad that I found this quote. In relation to the texts, I don't think Ludvick has hope, but I don't think he is optimistic either- I think he's just cocky that everything is going to go his way. I think if he had some hope, that someday his life will turn around and that he will be happier, then he wouldn't have forced himself on Lucie and wouldn't have hit her. I'm sure it's really hard to have hope when you're at a camp like the one Ludvick is at, but I wish that he would have some hope that he will be happier, because that would help him get through the hard times more.

Be authentic. Be true. Be you.

Another line from Havel's Power of the Powerless that has stuck out to me is "Individuals can be alienated from themselves only because their is something in them to alienate" (page 41). Havel describes that because of this, living within the truth is directly related to living within the lie. We talked about this a lot in class one day, and I think it's definitely true that it's not possible to living within the truth without having first lived within the lie. I think that Havel's description of living within the truth shows people that have first lived within the lie and then one day realized that they can't do it anymore - that they have to start being themselves.
So what is the big moment that makes people start to live within the truth? Do people really just choose to live within the lie because they are afraid of losing things? I feel like possessing your dignity and knowing that you are standing up for what you believe in is a lot better than possessing things and constantly living each day knowing you are agreeing with something you don't believe in. Like I've mentioned in my previous posts, people today deal with this exact same thing.
Middle School and High School are two of the worst times for adolescents. In Middle School, you realize that you're not a kid anymore, you start to go through puberty, and for most people it's the "awkward phase". (It definitely was for me.) One of the worst parts of Middle School, though, is trying to "fit in". I remember having a bunch of friends from elementary school who, one day, decided to tell my best friend who moved away that they hated me. When I tried to talk to them about it, they told me to "rot in hell". I cried so much, and tried to have my mom talk to their moms, but in the end I ended up without friends - really, all of my friends who went to my Middle School just stopped talking to me! And I had absolutely no idea why. When I realized I didn't have any friends anymore, I decided I had to do anything to have friends because if you didn't have friends in Middle School, you would be called a freak or a loser. I'm a really sensitive person, and I knew I wasn't about to be called anything like that.
I had one friend who was my pen pal in elementary school (she went to a different elementary school and we ended up at the same Middle School), and I decided to start hanging out with her. She was friends with the "popular" kids, and so I started to become friends with the "popular" kids. I thought it was awesome, because who doesn't want to be popular in Middle School? The only problem was that since they knew everyone thought they were cool and popular, they would make fun of everyone in the school who wasn't a part of their group. Since I wanted to fit in with a group so bad, I would agree with them when they made fun of someone, and I even participated in the mean talk. I was considered one of the nicest girls in my elementary school (according to my teachers and classmates), but as soon as I got to Middle School, I was considered one of the "Mean Girls".
Being in the Mean Girls clique lasted about two years for me. In 8th grade, I started to branch out and make new friends in my classes. When I made friends with the non-popular kids and realized that I actually enjoyed hanging out with them more than my group of friends, I started to realize that all that time, I wasn't being authentic. I started to pull away from my popular friends, and eventually they just stopped inviting me places. I was hurt at first, and tried to figure out why, but as soon as I switched to a different High School, it was easier for me to cut ties with them. I realized who I wanted to be, and that didn't include making fun of people all the time. I wish that I had been able to live within the truth by telling them to stop making fun of people, but I'm glad that I was able to live within the truth by getting away from those relationships. I'm definitely much happier now that I've found true friends, and I feel comfortable telling people not to gossip and not to make fun of people.
Because of this experience, I think living within the truth has to come with living within the lie. I don't think there would be a way for me to live within the truth and tell the girls I became friends with to stop making fun of people unless I experienced it myself. I know that is probably really sad, but unfortunately it was true for my Middle School self.
Relating back to the books we've read in class, I think the same can be said for Ludvick in The Joke. He completely agrees to living within the lie, and makes a joke about living within the truth. I don't think he actually wants to live within the truth. He talks about that moment where he wrote that joking letter as the turning point for his now-awful life at the camp. Danny from The Miracle Game is another example: he shows that he's living within the lie, but at the same time he is choosing to live within the truth with the people that he knows he can trust won't hate him for it. It is so hard to completely choose to live within the truth, but it is so beneficial and rewarding. Unfortunately, one has to go through the hard part of living within the lie, completely oblivious to what is going on around them, before they are able to see what they are doing is wrong. It is awful to think that people in our society choose to live within the lie because they don't want to experience what would happen if they were to live within the truth. I think people need to start taking more chances to stand up for what they believe in, because if they don't, our world is going to be one big lie.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Live within the truth!

I think Havel's example of the Green Grocer putting up the sign in his store window, and all those who walk by and ignore it, in The Power of the Powerless is definitely the best part we've read so far. I think it's so interesting how people were able to live this way - doing things and saying things that they didn't necessarily feel all because they were scared of what would happen if they didn't follow the rules. To relate it back to my common theme for this blog, connections between what we're doing in class and our society today, it almost reminds me of people not speaking up against comments that aren't "politically correct".
Havel talks about a woman who just walks by the sign and doesn't say anything about it. She also has put up a sign, and Havel describes how when the green grocer visits her store, he doesn't notice her sign either. The sign is just something they did without thinking, and neither of them feels the need to acknowledge it for fear of what might happen to them. This reminds me of when people in our society use words like "gay" or "retard" derogatory terms, and a lot of people just let it slide. I definitely used to be one of those people who would just ignore when terms like that would be used. I stopped when the word "retard" started to be used more and more. I have a brother with mental and physical disabilities, and one day I was talking to him about that word and how it made him feel to hear other people call someone "retarded" when talking about a person being stupid. He told me that it made him so upset and bad about himself. He knew they weren't calling him that word, but he also felt hurt and sad and worthless. After that conversation with him, I made it my mission to make sure that no one used that word anymore. I now feel comfortable speaking up when I hear someone use it. Sometimes I get nervous to stand up for what I believe in because I don't want others to think I'm weird or think of me differently, but I'm definitely getting more comfortable telling people not to use it.
The green grocer and the woman both know what the slogan says; they both knowingly put them in their windows having some idea of what it means and know that they will be identified as believing what it says. I believe that that is the same as talking to someone who uses a term like "gay" or "retard" and not speaking up about how hurtful those words can be. People in our society may not have their entire lives at stake if they do speak up and start to live within the truth, but they are conscious of the fact that they may lose their friends or get fired if they speak up about how they feel. I think that social isolation and being unemployed because of standing up for your beliefs would be awful as well as being jailed or put in a camp like Ludvick.
Those who do live within the truth when it comes to speaking out against derogatory terms and racial terms are stronger than anyone. There's a campaign to Spread the Word to End the Word - about ending the use of the word "retard" - and the national day to spread the word this year is March 7. I love seeing people pledging to stop using the word and posting the homepage of Spread the Word to End the Word (http://www.r-word.org/) on Facebook. Living within the truth is something that takes a lot of courage, but I think once you start to live within the truth even just a little bit, it becomes so much easier to start voicing your opinion and standing up for what you believe in.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Portrayal of Women in Media

After our discussion in class today, I couldn't stop thinking about how women are portrayed in The Joke. It doesn't seem as if we really get to hear any of the women's perspectives in the novel, except for Helena, but all she really talks about is her ex-husband, what she should wear, etc. Also, and the author comments on how this is done purposefully, Helena's monologue in part 2 is pretty much just one run-on sentence. When I read it, I felt like she was just rambling and talking just to talk. It almost feels like the author is making her sound like she doesn't have anything important to say and maybe even nothing important going on in her mind. The next woman we are introduced to is Marketa, and like some people said in class, she is almost made out to seem like an awful person for turning Ludvick in to the Party for the joking letter he wrote to her. That is pretty much her only role in the novel as of right now. And then we meet Lucie, who barely has any lines in the novel except for when Ludvick tries to force himself on her, which is when she starts to say that she doesn't want to have sex with him. The only other interaction Ludvick has with a woman up until part 3 is when he goes to the bar with his friends from the camp, and all the soldiers are trying to pursue the few women there, and when they meet one, Ludvick and his friends take turns with her. I'm not sure exactly what the author's intention is when portraying women in The Joke, but from what I can tell, it's not a very positive portrayal, and I don't even consider myself a feminist.
It's made me think about my last post about cliques, and made me try to focus my attention more towards how women are portrayed in the media. Clearly in Gossip Girl, girls are always fighting, making their best friends hate them one day and then becoming best friends the next day, and sleeping around with any guy they can find. Shows like Gossip Girl want girls to create drama. And just like this, the portrayal of women in books like The Joke are making women feel like they are only as good as the guy they're with, or that their main goal should be to look good so that they can find a guy. Maybe I'm overreacting to the book, but it's a serious issue in our society today that women are constantly under pressure to look perfect. This week is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, and it's mainly the media that has made women feel the need to become thinner which lead to eating disorders. Thinking about the way women are portrayed reminds me of a video that I watched in my Intro to Sociology class last year:
I feel that Kundera is not allowing the women in his novel to show their ideas (unless they are about the Party) on purpose, and I think that is my biggest issue with The Joke right now. I wish that we could see what's going on inside of Lucie's head. I understand that Ludvick is the main character and that we can only hear his thoughts, but the fact that we hear more from his friends at the camp that we do from Lucie really upsets me because he claims that he loves her, yet we never hear anything from her unless she's resisting him. Maybe we'll find out more about who she is later on in the novel, but she is just another example of women who are portrayed as being passive.